<![CDATA[Negative stereotypes about women are everywhere, and when we internalize them, we usually do not realize it. Yet carrying these internalized stereotypes can influence our behaviors toward other women. For that reason, it is important to begin to notice how these negative stereotypes may live in us and be reflected in our thoughts, attitudes, and behaviors. 1. The level I statements below describe ways you may be hurting yourself by internalizing negative stereotypes, and the Level II statements describe ways you may be participating in horizontal violence toward another woman. Be honest with yourself and put a check mark by the statements below that are true for you. Notice whether your score indicates a low, moderate, or strong internalization of negative stereotypes about women. Level I—Have you ever
- Discounted or doubted yourself?
- Apologized before presenting your ideas in a group or meeting, such as saying, “I may be wrong” or “This is probably a stupid question”?
- Felt like an imposter or fraud when you got a promotion or opportunity?
- Looked in the mirror and really disliked what you saw?
- Tied your self-image to your appearance or clothes?
- Said something negative about another woman and denied it when she asked?
- Talked negatively about a woman behind her back and smiled to her face?
- Made a commitment to support another woman and didn’t do it when the time came?
- Said to someone, “She’s such a bitch”?
- Made fun of another woman’s appearance behind her back?
- Said or thought, “You can’t trust women”?
- Spread a rumor that you had heard that cast doubt on another woman’s competence?
- Seen another woman’s ideas attacked or ignored in a meeting, whether you agreed with them or not, while you sat back and watched in silence?
1–3 checks = You exhibit low internalization of negative stereotypes about women.
4–6 checks = You exhibit moderate internalization of negative stereotypes about women.
7+ checks = You exhibit strong internalization of negative stereotypes about women.2. Think about your vision for how you would like women to behave toward each other at work. Create a personal code of conduct for how you want to behave. Post it and look at it daily to remind yourself of how you want to be. An excerpt from my book, New Rules for Women, available at Amazon (http://www.amazon.com/dp/0982056982/).]]>