<![CDATA[The participants in my study confirmed what scholars have found about women’s friendship expectations: there is a core set of rules or expectations. The table below shows that these expectations include unswerving loyalty, trustworthiness, and the ability to keep confidences. Friends share gossip and air problems, are good listeners, offer self-disclosure, practice equality and unconditional acceptance, affirmation, sympathy, and healing—and they do not discuss or negotiate their friendship rules or expectations. Cultural differences and other factors make it unlikely that all women share the exact same friendship expectations. However, the taboo against discussion means that mismatched assumptions may not be discovered until damage has been done to a relationship, a problem we will focus on later. But for now, let’s get clearer about how the context of the workplace makes a difference.
|Table 1: Common friendship rules for adult women|
|Show unswerving loyalty and trustworthiness.|
|Give unconditional acceptance while seldom disapproving.|
|Share gossip and air problems.|
|Be a good listener.|
|Don’t discuss friendship rules.|