{"id":681,"date":"2015-04-16T09:00:31","date_gmt":"2015-04-16T13:00:31","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/annelitwin.com\/?p=681"},"modified":"2015-04-16T09:00:31","modified_gmt":"2015-04-16T13:00:31","slug":"next-steps-for-strengthening-relationship-skills","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.annelitwin.com\/blog\/blog-posts\/next-steps-for-strengthening-relationship-skills\/","title":{"rendered":"Next Steps for Strengthening Relationship Skills"},"content":{"rendered":"

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  • Practice your listening skills.\n\n\n
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    1. Listen to someone else without interrupting for five minutes\u00a0while she talks about something she cares about that she is\u00a0either dealing with or is frustrated by. You can use nonverbal\u00a0behaviors, such as nodding or raising your eyebrows, to show\u00a0that you are listening, but you cannot say anything. Notice what\u00a0gets in the way of fully listening, and bring your attention back\u00a0to the speaker. Notice how quickly you may want to interrupt\u00a0and interject your opinions or your own experiences\u2014but don\u2019t\u00a0interrupt.<\/li>\n\n\n\t\n\n
    2. Now it\u2019s your turn. Ask the listener to let you talk for five minutes\u00a0about something you care about that you are dealing with or are\u00a0frustrated by. Notice your reaction to having five minutes to talk\u00a0without interruption. Is this situation unusual? Do you like it?\u00a0Do you dislike it? Just notice.<\/li>\n\n\n<\/ol>\n\n\n<\/li>\n\n\n\t\n\n
    3. Distinguish gossip from transknitting. Share the definition of\u00a0\u201ctransknitting\u201d with two other women, one at work and one outside\u00a0of work whom you talk with regularly. During your conversations,\u00a0when discussing another person, ask each other, \u201cIs this gossip or\u00a0transknitting? What do you think?\u201d<\/li>\n\n\n\t\n\n
    4. If you have a relationship that has recently become strained or has\u00a0come to an end for reasons that you may or may not understand,\u00a0consider asking for help with using the relational resilience tool\u00a0described above.<\/li>\n\n\n<\/ol>\n\n\nAn excerpt from my book,\u00a0New Rules for Women<\/em>, available at Amazon (http:\/\/www.amazon.com\/dp\/0982056982\/<\/a>).]]>\t\t<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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