{"id":635,"date":"2015-03-19T09:00:21","date_gmt":"2015-03-19T13:00:21","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/annelitwin.com\/?p=635"},"modified":"2015-03-19T09:00:21","modified_gmt":"2015-03-19T13:00:21","slug":"triangulation","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.annelitwin.com\/blog\/blog-posts\/triangulation\/","title":{"rendered":"Triangulation"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>\t\t\t\t<![CDATA[One way of understanding the purpose of triangulation, also found in all indirect cultures, is that it is a passive style of dealing with conflict. When asked how they felt about dealing with conflict, the women in this study, particularly white American and Hispanic women, expressed a discomfort with direct confrontation. Here are some ways they described their discomfort:\n\n\n<ul>\n\t\n\n<li>\u201cIt\u2019s hard for me. I\u2019m not good at confrontation.\u201d (Paula, nurse)<\/li>\n\n\n\t\n\n<li>\u201cI don\u2019t like confrontation. I allowed a coworker to intimidate me.\u201d (Laurie, manager in the travel industry)<\/li>\n\n\n\t\n\n<li>\u201cI\u2019m a wimp! I would let conflict slide and then come around, behind the scenes, and do that passive-aggressive thing. That\u2019s not good.\u201d (Sheri, technology manager)<\/li>\n\n\n\t\n\n<li>\u201cIt\u2019s difficult because you don\u2019t want to make somebody angry.\u201d (Claire, nurse)<\/li>\n\n\n<\/ul>\n\n\nPaula summed it up best for this group of women: \u201cWe weren\u2019t raised that way [to be direct and confrontational]. We were told that women didn\u2019t do that . . . you were to be seen and not heard.\u201d \u201cSeen and not heard\u201d\u2014I remember being told this when I was growing up, along with \u201cgirls are sugar and spice and everything nice.\u201d I remember thinking that I had to avoid confrontation because it could damage a relationship\u2014or, as Claire said, \u201cmake somebody angry.\u201d\n&nbsp;\nAn excerpt from my book,\u00a0<em>New Rules for Women<\/em>, available at Amazon (<a href=\"http:\/\/www.amazon.com\/dp\/0982056982\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">http:\/\/www.amazon.com\/dp\/0982056982\/<\/a>).]]>\t\t<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\t\t\t\t<![CDATA[]]>\t\t<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[3,4],"tags":[169,207,222,418,585,612,634],"class_list":["post-635","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-blog-posts","category-excerpt","tag-emotions","tag-feminine-values","tag-friendship-rules","tag-new-rules","tag-triangulation","tag-women","tag-workplace"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.annelitwin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/635","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.annelitwin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.annelitwin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.annelitwin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.annelitwin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=635"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.annelitwin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/635\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.annelitwin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=635"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.annelitwin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=635"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.annelitwin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=635"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}