{"id":633,"date":"2015-03-12T09:00:33","date_gmt":"2015-03-12T13:00:33","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/annelitwin.com\/?p=633"},"modified":"2015-03-12T09:00:33","modified_gmt":"2015-03-12T13:00:33","slug":"transknitting-in-practice","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.annelitwin.com\/blog\/blog-posts\/transknitting-in-practice\/","title":{"rendered":"Transknitting in Practice"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>\t\t\t\t<![CDATA[An example of how transknitting works as a way of connecting occurred one day at home. My partner, Mike, came home from work bewildered. His daughter had heard from his ex-wife that he had been ill and called to inquire about how he was feeling.\nThe bewildering part was that Mike and his ex-wife, Patty, have been divorced for twenty-five years and have not been on speaking terms during that time.\n\u201cHow does she know I\u2019m sick?\u201d he demanded to know.\nI suggested that the only way his ex-wife could have known he had been ill was that his <em>other <\/em>daughter must have told her.\n\u201cWhy are they talking about me?\u201d he asked. \u201cDon\u2019t I have a say about who talks about me? And besides, why does Patty care whether or not I\u2019m sick after all this time?\u201d\n\u201cYou don\u2019t have a say, she doesn\u2019t care, and,\u201d I answered, \u201cthis isn\u2019t about you.\u201d\n\u201cWhat do you mean \u2018it\u2019s not about me\u2019?\u201d he said. \u201cI\u2019m the one they\u2019re talking about.\u201d\n\u201cThey are transknitting,\u201d I replied. \u201cYou are not the point. They are using information about you to do their mother-daughter relationship work. This is really not about you.\u201d\nThey were talking about Mike to connect, just as my mother and I talked about people we both knew to connect. There was no negative intention toward Mike. His daughters and their mother were engaging in one of the positive types of talk.\n&nbsp;\nAn excerpt from my book,\u00a0<em>New Rules for Women<\/em>, available at Amazon (<a href=\"http:\/\/www.amazon.com\/dp\/0982056982\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">http:\/\/www.amazon.com\/dp\/0982056982\/<\/a>).]]>\t\t<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\t\t\t\t<![CDATA[]]>\t\t<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[3,4],"tags":[169,207,222,418,582,612,634],"class_list":["post-633","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-blog-posts","category-excerpt","tag-emotions","tag-feminine-values","tag-friendship-rules","tag-new-rules","tag-transknitting","tag-women","tag-workplace"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.annelitwin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/633","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.annelitwin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.annelitwin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.annelitwin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.annelitwin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=633"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.annelitwin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/633\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.annelitwin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=633"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.annelitwin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=633"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.annelitwin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=633"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}