{"id":630,"date":"2015-02-19T09:00:48","date_gmt":"2015-02-19T13:00:48","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/annelitwin.com\/?p=630"},"modified":"2015-02-19T09:00:48","modified_gmt":"2015-02-19T13:00:48","slug":"next-steps-for-keeping-relationships-healthy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.annelitwin.com\/blog\/blog-posts\/next-steps-for-keeping-relationships-healthy\/","title":{"rendered":"Next Steps for Keeping Relationships Healthy"},"content":{"rendered":"

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  • Practice the skill of mutual empathy. Identify a relationship, either\u00a0inside or outside of work, where you have recently experienced some\u00a0tension that was not discussed.\n\n\n
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    1. Write down what you experienced (describe the behaviors you\u00a0noticed) and what you felt (for example, surprise or discomfort).<\/li>\n\n\n\t\n\n
    2. Ask the other person for a time to get together to talk something\u00a0over. Tell her you are concerned that a misunderstanding might\u00a0have happened. Tell her what you experienced and felt, and ask\u00a0her what she experienced and felt.<\/li>\n\n\n\t\n\n
    3. Listen deeply to each other and ask questions for understanding.\u00a0Do not interrupt each other. Really listen.<\/li>\n\n\n<\/ol>\n\n\n<\/li>\n\n\n\t\n\n
    4. Practice naming and negotiating. If a misunderstanding was\u00a0developing in step 1 above, then name the friendship rules that\u00a0may have been operating for you, and ask the other person how they\u00a0compare to hers. Try to agree on new ones that will work better to\u00a0meet the needs you both have.<\/li>\n\n\n\t\n\n
    5. Practice role hats. The next time you are going to a meeting with a\u00a0woman who has a role different from yours (with either a level or a\u00a0functional difference), ask a colleague to help you clarify the roles\u00a0before the meeting. Write down the role hat you think you will wear\u00a0and the one the other woman will wear in the upcoming meeting.\u00a0Debrief with your colleague after the meeting. What did you notice\u00a0about your expectations for the interaction? Continue this practice\u00a0before the next few meetings to sharpen your skills.<\/li>\n\n\n<\/ol>\n\n\n \nAn excerpt from my book,\u00a0New Rules for Women<\/em>, available at Amazon (http:\/\/www.amazon.com\/dp\/0982056982\/<\/a>).]]>\t\t<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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