{"id":603,"date":"2015-02-09T09:00:49","date_gmt":"2015-02-09T13:00:49","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/annelitwin.com\/?p=603"},"modified":"2015-02-09T09:00:49","modified_gmt":"2015-02-09T13:00:49","slug":"have-relationships-changed-for-younger-women","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.annelitwin.com\/blog\/blog-posts\/have-relationships-changed-for-younger-women\/","title":{"rendered":"Have Relationships Changed for Younger Women?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>\t\t\t\t<![CDATA[<strong>\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <\/strong>My passion is helping women be successful, and I believe that having strong relationships with other women at work is a key to our success. When I speak about my new book <a href=\"http:\/\/www.amazon.com\/New-Rules-Women-Revolutionizing-Together\/dp\/0982056982\"><em>New Rules for Women: Revolutionizing the Way Women Work Together<\/em><\/a>, I am often asked, \u201cHaven\u2019t things changed for younger women?\u201d I always answer honestly that I have not studied the dynamics of younger women\u2019s relationships, which is why I was so interested in a <a href=\"http:\/\/www.huffingtonpost.com\/lexi-herrick\/18-things-women-stop-doing-to-each-other_b_5845440.html\">recent article in the <em>Huffington Post<\/em> by writer and college student Lexi Herrick<\/a>. Herrick does not claim to be reporting research findings, but many of the relationship problems she sees with women her age sound very familiar. Here are some examples from her list of 18 things women need to stop doing to each other:\n\n\n<ul>\n\t\n\n<li>\u201cSlut-shaming.\u201d Herrick encourages her readers to let other women make their own decisions and to resist the urge to express disapproval of other women\u2019s sexual choices. She suggests this motto to live by: \u201cNot your vagina, not your business.\u201d<\/li>\n\n\n\t\n\n<li>\u201cSeriously, just saying \u2018oh my gosh you\u2019re so skinny\u2019 is just as demeaning as commenting on the weight that a girl has gained. Just don\u2019t.\u201d Herrick says to avoid making <em>any<\/em> comments about other women\u2019s bodies.<\/li>\n\n\n\t\n\n<li>\u201cAvoiding actual conversation with a woman you\u2019re in a conflict with.\u201d Though telling others about a conflict may be easier than dealing directly with the person we\u2019re upset with, Herrick advocates for going straight to the source and working it out like adults.<\/li>\n\n\n\t\n\n<li>\u201cBeing fake to each other.\u201d If you\u2019re having trouble with another woman, Herrick says, \u201cSimply don\u2019t associate with her.\u201d Don\u2019t pretend to be her friend, but make negative comments about her when she isn\u2019t around.<\/li>\n\n\n\t\n\n<li>\u201cSub-tweeting about each other or crafting any kind of indirect social media post.\u201d Such passive-aggressive behavior may have been acceptable in junior high, but now, Herrick argues, \u201cWe are way too old for this sh*t.\u201d<\/li>\n\n\n<\/ul>\n\n\nPlease read Herrick\u2019s full list (linked above). Her suggestions are relevant for women of all ages. Herrick closes by saying, \u201cLove and be loved by other women, because when we work together we are a force to be reckoned with.\u201d Yes!\nWhat would you say that women need to stop doing to each other to build trust and support?]]>\t\t<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\t\t\t\t<![CDATA[]]>\t\t<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[3],"tags":[51,117,142,221,225,490,551,567,634],"class_list":["post-603","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-blog-posts","tag-bias","tag-confidence","tag-discrimination","tag-friendship","tag-gender","tag-relationships","tag-stereotypes","tag-teamwork","tag-workplace"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.annelitwin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/603","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.annelitwin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.annelitwin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.annelitwin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.annelitwin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=603"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.annelitwin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/603\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.annelitwin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=603"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.annelitwin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=603"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.annelitwin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=603"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}