{"id":597,"date":"2015-02-12T09:00:42","date_gmt":"2015-02-12T13:00:42","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/annelitwin.com\/?p=597"},"modified":"2015-02-12T09:00:42","modified_gmt":"2015-02-12T13:00:42","slug":"successful-boundary-management","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.annelitwin.com\/blog\/blog-posts\/successful-boundary-management\/","title":{"rendered":"Successful Boundary Management"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>\t\t\t\t<![CDATA[More examples of successful boundary management were described by some of the lesbian women in this study. These women described a need to be vigilant about personal and relational boundary management in the workplace. They cannot afford to have their behaviors misinterpreted by heterosexual women colleagues or homophobic bosses and coworkers if they are out as lesbians and they are perceived as being too friendly. It may not be surprising, then, that one of the clearest examples of good boundary management using the role hats tool came from an African American lesbian, Sharon, who was a participant in this study.\nSharon, a senior manager in the healthcare sector in her sixties, described how her early bosses taught her to manage the boss-employee boundary:\n\n\n<blockquote>To be friends at work requires total transparency\u2014you must be totally honest on both sides of the boundary. It cannot work to be the senior or the junior person if you cannot trust that what you are seeing is what you are getting.\nI explicitly name the role that I\u2019m coming from\u2014which hat I\u2019m wearing\u2014boss or friend. My friend can ask me which hat I\u2019m wearing in any interaction. She can ask me to change hats.\nWe are always clear about how the role hats are going to work. I am clear with her that when I have my boss hat on, I am speaking from my supervisor role, where I am responsible for the quality of her work\u2014and I may not be happy with it. There may also be things going on in the company that I cannot discuss because of my role, and I will tell her that.\nWe can also be good friends outside of work, as long as we stay clear about our hats. I have joked that I am friends with bosses and bosses of friends. A friendship may not survive if I have to discipline or fire her\u2014but I\u2019ve had good luck with that, so it\u2019s not always a problem.<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\u201cTotal transparency\u201d\u2014this, along with the role hats tool, is the key to enable you to \u201cswitch the light on and off\u201d to manage role boundaries and relationships at work.\n&nbsp;\nAn excerpt from my book,\u00a0<em>New Rules for Women<\/em>, available at Amazon (<a href=\"http:\/\/www.amazon.com\/dp\/0982056982\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">http:\/\/www.amazon.com\/dp\/0982056982\/<\/a>).]]>\t\t<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\t\t\t\t<![CDATA[]]>\t\t<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[3,4],"tags":[169,207,222,418,612,634],"class_list":["post-597","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-blog-posts","category-excerpt","tag-emotions","tag-feminine-values","tag-friendship-rules","tag-new-rules","tag-women","tag-workplace"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.annelitwin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/597","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.annelitwin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.annelitwin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.annelitwin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.annelitwin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=597"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.annelitwin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/597\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.annelitwin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=597"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.annelitwin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=597"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.annelitwin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=597"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}