{"id":528,"date":"2014-11-20T09:00:33","date_gmt":"2014-11-20T13:00:33","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/annelitwin.com\/?p=528"},"modified":"2014-11-20T09:00:33","modified_gmt":"2014-11-20T13:00:33","slug":"sheryl-sandberg-and-gendered-expectations","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.annelitwin.com\/blog\/blog-posts\/sheryl-sandberg-and-gendered-expectations\/","title":{"rendered":"Sheryl Sandberg and Gendered Expectations"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>\t\t\t\t<![CDATA[Sheryl Sandberg, in her book <em>Lean<\/em> <em>In<\/em>, makes the point that women\u00a0cannot ignore the many double binds they face in the workplace if they\u00a0want to be successful, however they may define success. She makes a\u00a0strong case and cites solid research about the importance for women of\u00a0being likeable if they wish to succeed and the double bind this creates\u00a0for women. One of the studies described by Sandberg was conducted\u00a0by two professors who used a Harvard Business School case study that\u00a0described a real-life entrepreneur. They gave the case to business-school\u00a0students to rate on several factors. Half the students got the case with the\u00a0name Heidi, and the other half got the same case with the name Howard.\u00a0While the students rated both Heidi and Howard as competent, they\u00a0rated Howard as a more appealing colleague, while Heidi was seen as\u00a0\u201cnot the type of person you would want to hire or work for.\u201d\nSandberg notes that this study shows what many other studies have\u00a0also shown: \u201cWhen a man is successful, he is liked by both men and\u00a0women. When a woman is successful, people of both genders like her\u00a0less.\u201d In other words, \u201csuccess and likeability are positively correlated for\u00a0men and negatively correlated for women.\u201d\nThe career implications are obvious. If we cannot get hired or\u00a0promoted because our competence makes both women and men\u00a0uncomfortable, we are in big trouble. If we play down our accomplishments\u00a0and do not toot our own horn about our capabilities to level and be\u00a0likeable, we cannot get access to opportunities. An additional research\u00a0finding shows that one reason women are paid less than men for the same\u00a0work is that women do not try to negotiate for compensation, benefits,\u00a0titles, and other perks as often as men do. But as Sandberg points out,\u00a0women have a good reason for not negotiating. We have learned that\u00a0if we advocate for ourselves, we are often seen as too demanding or\u00a0aggressive and not someone people want to hire or promote.\nAn excerpt from my book,\u00a0<em>New Rules for Women<\/em>, available at Amazon (<a href=\"http:\/\/www.amazon.com\/dp\/0982056982\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">http:\/\/www.amazon.com\/dp\/0982056982\/<\/a>).]]>\t\t<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\t\t\t\t<![CDATA[]]>\t\t<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[3,4],"tags":[149,169,207,222,418,612,634],"class_list":["post-528","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-blog-posts","category-excerpt","tag-double-bind","tag-emotions","tag-feminine-values","tag-friendship-rules","tag-new-rules","tag-women","tag-workplace"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.annelitwin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/528","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.annelitwin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.annelitwin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.annelitwin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.annelitwin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=528"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.annelitwin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/528\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.annelitwin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=528"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.annelitwin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=528"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.annelitwin.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=528"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}