{"id":470,"date":"2014-09-29T09:00:00","date_gmt":"2014-09-29T13:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/annelitwin.com\/?p=470"},"modified":"2014-09-29T09:00:00","modified_gmt":"2014-09-29T13:00:00","slug":"women-smile-work","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.annelitwin.com\/blog\/blog-posts\/women-smile-work\/","title":{"rendered":"Why Women Have to Smile More at Work"},"content":{"rendered":"

\t\t\t\tLean In<\/em><\/a> when she described some excellent research by Heilman and Okimoto<\/a>: \u201cWhen a man is successful, he is liked by both men and women. When a woman is successful, people of both genders like her less.\u201d\nI thought about this research when I read a recent New York Times<\/em> newspaper article<\/a> with the headline, \u201cIn Memoir, Hillary Clinton Emphasizes Her Softer Side.\u201d I stopped and did a double take when I saw this headline. I wondered if, based on the harsh reaction Clinton triggered in many women and men during her 2008 campaign for president, she has been advised to do the equivalent of \u201csmiling more\u201d\u2014or showing her softer side.\nSo much research has been done now on what some authors call \u201cthe likeability factor,\u201d including that recorded in Babcock and Laschever\u2019s book Women Don\u2019t Ask<\/em><\/a>, that we have to take the gender difference seriously. It may seem unfair that women are held to a different standard of leadership behavior, but it seems to be a reality for us at this point in time. It\u2019s not that women have to get \u201cfixed,\u201d it\u2019s that different gender stereotypes mean we sometimes have to act differently to be successful.\nHere are some approaches that have worked for my clients:\n\n\n